Why go to therapy?
A story of a gay christian woman, finding real therapy outside of the Christian church she grew up in.
Category Archive: Learning To Be You
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Acceptance
“The next message you need is always right where you are.” Ram Dass I am 46 years old and not sleeping through the night is a regular thing now. I keep imagining my… Continue reading
Bites of Narcissism
“…ministry is a magnet for narcissistic personality – who else would want to speak on behalf of God every week?” A friend of mine recently started a group on Facebook for those who… Continue reading
I Picked Me
“Reject the tyranny of picked. Pick yourself.” ― Seth Godin, Poke the Box At 34 years old, I was growing tired of who I had become. I was at church or church events nearly 5… Continue reading
Resisting Resistance
Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance. Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art In this fast-paced world we live… Continue reading
Journey of Independence
It’s Independence Day in the United States. If I was asked by a reporter on the street what Independence Day means to me, I probably would respond with a little bit of verbiage… Continue reading
Trash-Talking = Victim Mentality
What if in skipping the pain, I was missing my lessons? ~ Glennon Doyle When I choose to remain silent, even though my gut, my body, my mind, and my heart are all… Continue reading
When Church Leaders Abuse Their Position
At the young age of 22, I entered into a youth program through Christ Church Kirkland (CCK), called Master’s Commission. This was an intense one year course, that focused on discipleship & leadership… Continue reading
Pathway to Authenticity
The road to being the most authentic you isn’t always glorious or exciting. For me, the past year of craving this authenticity has also brought with it great turmoil. I have spent much… Continue reading
Close Your Bible. Open Your Mind.
To all the Christians who think people who commit certain “sins” are going to hell, well, I must tell you, I would rather be in “hell” with all the loving, accepting, free-thinking people… Continue reading
How A Pastor’s Kid Survived Sexual and Emotional Suppression, Came Out Gay and Got Married at 44 Years Old
Okay, this is going to be a bit lengthy, so if you need to make some popcorn or pour a glass of wine, I would suggest doing it now. This is Netflix material!… Continue reading
My Purpose Isn’t for the Four Walls of Church. My Purpose is for the Real World.
March 10, 1998 (Journal entry of mine) “…Dan encouraged me and then prophesied over me that I am going to be ministering to people – that I will affect a lot of people… Continue reading
I Was A “True Believer”
I recently read an article that a friend sent me and it validated in fresh words, why I have felt more anger and depression and grief from exiting Christ Church Kirkland, than others… Continue reading
The Bible and The Church Never Taught Me Unconditional Love
I started going to church with my family at 5 years old. For 30 years, I attended church every week. I read my Bible every day. My life was Christianity, the church and… Continue reading
“Jill, We Need to Talk.” Norm Willis
You can get to where you want to be from wherever you are—but you must stop spending so much time noticing and talking about what you do not like about where you are. … Continue reading
Dear Alcohol, What Are You Here For?
Push it down, it comes out sideways Push it down, it comes back up ~ Travis Meadows, Sideways There was a time I didn’t understand why people had addictions to drugs and… Continue reading
Adios You Toxic People
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. – Marcel Proust The older I get, the more I recognize what a true… Continue reading
God Made Me Gay
It is easy for some of us to be told what to think and how to think and not spend the time finding our own individual values and ethical principles. This was the… Continue reading
The Infallible Word of Jill
Since I was 5 years old, I was going to church and reading the bible or having the bible read to me. When I was around 6 years old, my family and I went… Continue reading
I don’t believe in Jesus. I believe in LOVE.
Do you know what a polemicist is without looking it up in the dictionary? I didn’t when I read in my astrological Gemini traits of a potential career. That word popped out at… Continue reading